Nobody but yourself expects you to be perfect


The pursuit of perfection at all costs is not just an unhealthy and counterproductive habit. It’s an impossible dream too. There is no such thing as perfection.

Indeed, perfection is first and foremost a relative statement. What one person thinks is perfect may seem flawed to another. For someone who strives for flawlessness in everything he does, it can be a challenge to meet all of the various standards of perfection. Granted, you could focus on meeting your own standards. But ask yourself one thing: How do you set your standards? What does it mean to you to be the best and, more importantly, is there room for change in your definition of being the best?

Think about it like this. At 5 years old, be the best meant coloring within the lines and attract yourself. You can easily accomplish both of these goals today, but do you consider yourself perfect? No, because the definition has changed. So if the image of perfection develops too, what is the point of aiming at it?

Be the best version that YOU can be

Instead of trying to compare yourself to others in order to be better than them, it is best to be positive about yourself. Be the best you can. You can keep a journal of your trip to reflect your progress and growth. Perhaps it is more effective to recognize your accomplishments than to dream of perfection.

The pressure you put on yourself makes you less perfect

Perfectionism is a tough road. In a world where perfection does not exist, those who seek it cannot help but feel anxious, depressed, and vulnerable. Perfectionists often look for stress relief through unhealthy coping mechanisms that can harm their mental health.

It is not surprising to find common dysfunctional traits among high perfectionists, including the use of harsh substances. While you can find assistance from health care providers like in breaking free of your harmful habits, it’s important to acknowledge that the pursuit of perfectionism is the real danger here.

Why are you looking for perfection?

This poses a crucial question: why do we need to be perfect? According to this insightful article, perfectionism is also associated with low self-esteem.

People who strive for perfection at all costs believe that in order to be respected and loved, they need impeccable accomplishments. Contrary to popular belief, a perfectionist is not someone who thinks they are better than everyone else. It is someone who is deeply convinced that they are worse than everyone else. They consider themselves less adorable than their peers, which is why they constantly try to meet incredibly high standards.

In summary, it can be said that perfection is a misnomer full of false promises. Perfection is an ideal that doesn’t exist in the real world. But having flaws doesn’t make a person unworthy. Perfectionists need to take a step back and rethink their priorities.

Instead of being the best of their peers, they should determine how to remain authentic while becoming the best version of themselves at the same time. Defining your own standards also changes your search. Perhaps perfection is nothing more than the pursuit of your own personal happiness. Therefore, it should start with yourself and understand what you really want to achieve.